Your spouse has MS, and the symptoms are no longer minimal. Your marriage has become either your handicap or your calling.
A handicap keeps us from doing some things we want to do. We can make choices that reduce its impact. We can substitute almost-as-good options for our first choices. Still, we will have a sense of loss, regret about what might have been. For example, a friend’s wife cannot fully pursue her university teaching career due to her spouse’s medical condition. She has accepted this, with occasional regret. He wishes it needn’t be this way, but they agree that it must.
A calling is something we have dedicated our lives to doing. It takes us beyond mere conventional living. Viewed that way, helping a spouse who has a disability can make one feel special, make one’s marriage special, if you remain committed to each other. [A old joke goes that in a ham-and-egg sandwich, the chicken is involved, but the pig is committed.]
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Read the whole piece at:
http://msrelief.com/2013/10/01/your-marriage-as-a-calling/
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