Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Rev. Nwaiwu Sermon, The Resurrection Hope

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_ Blessed and holy is the one who takes part in the first resurrection”      
                      Rev. 20:6 NET.

Resurrection simply means coming back to life and it’s one of the most crucial facts in the doctrines of the gospel. Before someone takes part in a resurrection, he must be confirmed dead by people. Our Lord Jesus Christ was sentenced to death. He was killed and buried to save mankind. His enemies who heard him clearly when he said he would rise on the third day, assigned guards (Soldiers) to watch so that his disciples would not come to steal his body and profess to the entire public that he had risen. The scripture says: “Unless the Lord protects a city, guarding it with sentries will do no good” (psalm 127:2)
At the appointed time, there was an earthquake and many saints who were waiting on the Lord’s Day followed Christ to resurrect. They moved to holy cities and were seen by many people.
The resurrection of Jesus Christ comforts the Christians that there is hope in Jesus Christ. In him we put our trust and hope. The disciples who were crying when he was killed now rejoiced as he appeared to them and also ate with them.
The Jews who denied that Jesus Christ is the son of God; his resurrection confirmed it that he is truly the son of Most High God and our justification is secured in his risen body (Romans 4:25, John 2:19, 10:17). His risen body is a clear proof that he has made a full atonement for our iniquities and his sacrifice was accepted as a divine justice. His body was given as a selfless sacrificial offering and his resurrection assures us that there is resurrection for the believers who died in Christ.
Note: There are some people who are being watched by some occultic priests. They don’t want to see you progress in life. Whether you are at home or not they have their spiritual satellite to mirror you. Such people are enemies of progress just like the guards who were paid to stop the resurrection of Jesus Christ. They did not stop it. Therefore brethren you are unstoppable in doing what would please our God.
The resurrection of Jesus Christ assures us that those who died for his sake will one day resurrect  at the appointed day that is unknown by man except Jehovah our God. Therefore, there is hope for the Christians.

—————Meditation Point———————
Lord may I be considered worthy in your sight at the day you will judge the world. May you call up my ruined soul to follow you to your kingdom, amen!

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Monday, March 12, 2018

WHAT EVER HAPPENED...? 5-minute Video of Janet Johnson Schliff

Author of WHATEVER HAPPENED TO MY WHITE PICKET FENCE? recorded by photo-journalist John DeSanto for the Middletown [NY] Times Herald-Record:

Rev. Nwaiwu Sermon, You Are Beyond Human Destruction

I(A Sermon Preached by Nigerian Rev. Fortune Emerence Chinemerem Nwaiwu)

“We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed, we are perplexed, but not driven to despond, we are hunted down, but never abandoned by God, we get knocked down, but we are not destroyed” 2 Cor. (4:8-9).
Texts: 2 Cor. 4:1-9; Isaiah 54:14-17.

Christians who really understand the nature of their calling face many trials and temptations. They are hated everywhere by the ungodly children of the world. The world seems to come against them when they stand on the truth, they pass through great tribulations and persecutions and yet they are not destroyed. We should learn that no amount of troubles should shake off our faith in Christ. The bitter cup of sufferings we have drunk with Christ will not consume us without bearing fruits for the Lord Jesus Christ. Because Christ is not yet done with you, nothing can destroy you. He will always show you a way out when there is a problem. Even when you feel that your soul is about to be drowned with death, he will rescue you for he will command his angels to protect you in all your ways— Psalms 91:11.

Fear not! For the fact that you are being hunted down by your enemies does not mean that God is not with you. God has made you and designed you to be beyond destruction. Could you take your mind back to the lives of the early Christians who were persecuted, stripped naked and flogged and yet God rescued them from their enemies because they were beyond destruction? Their property might have been destroyed but their very souls were not destroyed.  So, stop being afraid of those who aspire to harm the body but can’t kill the soul; instead, be afraid of the one who can destroy both body and soul in hell— Matt. 10:28.

Since we serve the very One that owns our very souls, then consider yourself as someone who is beyond destruction and reproach, because you make Him your refuge and a shelter.
Apostle Peter was hunted down by King Herod Agrippa. He was imprisoned till the day he would be released for a public trial. The trial would have resulted to the killing of Peter the way Apostle James was martyred, but God who knew that He was not yet done with him, sent his angel in a night before his trial to release him from the prison. Thus, Peter was beyond destruction; instead, his enemies were used to pay the price of his death. As he was released out from the prison, Herod Agrippa ordered that those prison guards should be executed.

Watch out today that any monitoring spirit against your success and your life will be put to destruction. Heaven was not silent when a plan was made, to imprison Peter; Heaven did something to take away the man of God from a condition that is not designed for him.
Prison is a place meant for evil doers. It is a place where notorious criminals are caged for torturing and trials. It is a place that is not convenient for people to stay.  It is a place made or prepared for Satan and his agents. They will be imprisoned in the lake of hell fire. Since the world sees the Christians as evil ones, they take hold of them to put them in prison and God promises his children through Isaiah that the one who suffers will be released; he will not die in prison; he will not go hungry, 51:14, NET.

Because you are beyond destruction, Satan will come at any time with his problems to check if what he hears about you is true. At times, he comes with problems of barrenness, failure in life and sometimes, uses your brothers or relatives to rise against you. The fact remains clear that whatever tactics the Satan may use to test your genuine faith in God, you are absolutely beyond destruction. Though  Satan may come with his deadly disease as he did during the time of Job, but God has given us assurance as we put our trusts in Him that “no evil of deadly disease will touch us, “though a thousand fall at your sides, though ten thousand are dying around you, these evils will not touch you”— Psalms 91:7.

This promise is a sign that you are beyond destruction and Satan and his agents of doom are pathological liars and failures. If you can cast your mind back in the years past and then remember how you had passed through terrible conditions, how a piece of your land was taken by force and compounded with the life threatening received from your enemies and yet you were not defeated, what sign do you perceive about whom you are? Beyond destruction!

The province of Asia under the rulership of Darius the Mede decided to make a law that would affect Daniel and lead to his perdition. Some group of people who had known how Daniel was skillfully handling Government matters successfully, tried to look for a way to accuse him as to ruin his reputation in governance. Probably, they might have strictly monitored him if there was a time he embezzled public funds or if he had slept with any man’s wife but could not find any fault in him. They later resorted to making a law that would affect his worship.

When this law was made, Daniel returned home and prayed to his God. Now he became guilty of the law and was thrown in to the lion’s den. The most High God shut the mouths of the lions and the lions became friends with him because Daniel was completely innocent and trusted in God in alliance with what Proverb 16:7 says: "When a man’s ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him." This really shows that Daniel is beyond destruction.  For you to be beyond destruction, you must totally believe in the power of resurrection and make Jesus Christ your personal Lord and Saviour and he will fortify you with his spiritual armor of righteousness and holiness to wad off every evil encroachment and reproach in your life.

—————Meditation Point——————————
Our prayer is that any sickness, condition or enemies who are coming into our lives like a raging sea, may God put destruction to them. May God show us a way of escape and cause our mediation on this sermon to bring healings and salvation in our souls. Amen.

Sunday, March 11, 2018

Parental Investment in Children, Why Asian-Americans Succeed?

Douglas Winslow Cooper, Ph.D.

Amy Chua’s 2010 book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, set off a fervent discussion of the degree to which Asian-American parenting styles, especially their investment in their children’s education, was important in producing the observed above-average performance of these children subsequent to their schooling.

In March 2014, the United States Bureau of Labor Statistics produced an analytical report related to this issue, “Investment in Higher Education by Race and Ethnicity,” written by Tian Luo and Richard J Holden. They showed that, compared to white parents, African-American parents invested less, and Asian-American parents invested more in their children’s education, with Hispanics not being statistically significantly different from other whites in this regard. [The authors controlled for several of the most likely confounding variables in their analysis.]

Different degrees of investment in their offspring are also found throughout the entire range of the animal kingdom. In fact, those who study such things have a term for the two extreme cases of parental investment, “R and K strategies,” the terms derived from the equations generally used in the field to model the outcomes of the two strategies:

A short article (by Jared Reser) posted on the Internet by the Organization for the Advancement of Interdisciplinary Learning [] described the two extremes:
·   “R-strategists usually create an abundance of offspring in the hopes that a few will make it. The species usually have a very short maturation time, often breed at a very young age, have a short lifespan, produce many offspring very quickly, have young with high mortality rates, and invest relatively little in parental care. The parents do not focus on passing down memes, units of cultural information, to their young. Instead the behavior of the young is determined by their genes. The young are precocial, meaning that they often can make it on their own without any instruction from their parents. Examples of R-selected species include bacteria, insects, and fish.”
·   K-strategists are very different in that they attempt to ensure the survival of their offspring by investing time in them, instead of investing in lots of them. It is a reproductive strategy that focuses on quality over quantity. K-strategists have relatively few offspring and make an effort at being good parents. Their young are altricial, meaning that they cannot survive on their own until they reach adulthood. This extended period of maturation is used for mimetic transference – the parents teach the young so that they can go on to reproduce themselves. K-strategists are known to have a relatively long life span, produce relatively few offspring; the offspring have lower mortality rates and parents provide extensive parental care. The offspring are also relatively intelligent so that they can internalize the lessons from their parents. K-selected species include elephants, apes and whales. Humans are perhaps the most K selected….”

The same source (Reser) produced the following ordering of organism types, from the R-strategists to the K-strategists, or quantity versus quality strategy: bacteria, mollusks, insects, fish, amphibians, reptiles, mammals, apes, humans…an ordering that resembles that of evolution, from the least to the most advanced species.

More details come from an article posed by the University of Miami [] entitled “r and K selection,” based on evolutionary considerations, which notes
·   Organisms that live in stable environments tend to make few, ‘expensive’ offspring. Organisms that live in unstable environments tend to make many, ‘cheap’ offspring.” When investment is risky, it is wise to invest little.
·   It makes more sense to invest when the life spans are longer, to give time for the investment to pay off.
·   If you plot the fraction who survive versus the age of the organism, the R (quantity) species (bacteria, oysters) tend to lose a far larger fraction at young ages compared to their maximum life spans than do the K (quality) species (whales, humans) compared to their maximum lifespans. Which is cause and which is effect? Do they die young because of a lack of investment? Do they live longer because of the investment? Ecologists study this kind of issue, often related to the “carrying capacity” of the environment, related to the number the environment could handle if they lived to the maximum lifetime.

When applied to the global situation for humans, this theory indicates that in dangerous parts of the world and in dangerous times, having many children is a strategy that may maximize the chance that some survive. In the less hazardous, more developed parts of the world, during peaceful times, having fewer children and giving them more input is advantageous for those who seek to pass on their genes and ideas. Thus, ethnic groups and races that traditionally have had large families are generally expected to have fewer children as their safety improves. Of course, culture and religion can work to over-ride this tendency.

Anecdotally, I have seen this investment in education by my Chinese - American in-laws: eldest child, a daughter, went to Cornell on a scholarship and eventually became an orthodontist; middle daughter, my Tina, went to Cornell on a scholarship and eventually became an Asian Studies scholar who worked for the Encyclopedia Britannica; youngest child, a son, went to a private high school and then on to Brown and became a rheumatologist. The girls would have preferred other schools but family resources were saved to facilitate their brother’s becoming an M.D. Furthermore, these parents themselves were the products of intensive educational investment, the mother having gotten her degree with a major in chemistry at China’s pre-eminent Tsinghua University, where she met their father, who went on to get his Sc.D. degree at America’s Massachusetts Institute of Technology on a scholarship he won in a nation-wide competition in China back in the 1930s.

Investment in education, broadly defined, pays off.

According to a research paper entitled “The Rise of Asian Americans,” published in June 2012 and updated in April of 2013 by the Pew Research Center [], the median family incomes---which might be taken as a measure of success---of groups in America are in almost the same order as the percentages holding bachelor’s degrees (or more) among those who are 25 and older and in those groups. Specifically, 49% of Asians, 31% of whites, 18% of blacks, and 13% of Hispanics hold a bachelor’s degree or more among the population 25 and older in 2010. Similarly, the median household incomes in 2010 were: for Asians $66,000; for whites $54,000; for Hispanics $40,000; and for blacks $33,300. Some Asian subgroups have higher poverty levels than the U.S. average, some lower, however, so other factors can trump education.

Granted, there is always some question about which is the cause and which is the effect when looking at correlations. Conceivably, this order might due to the greater availability of college to groups that have greater incomes, but it seems more likely that it reflects the greater probability for financial success of groups that have a higher percentage of their population with college degrees. In other words, investment in advanced education has paid off in terms of relative incomes, whether or not it was financially sound.

The same Pew report noted that 2/3 of Asians believed having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in life, whereas only 50% of other Americans agreed with this. Their newborns are less likely than those of other Americans to have an unmarried mother (16% vs. 41%), although that figure is higher (31%) for women of Asian ancestry born in the U.S.
     The Pew report describes the arc of Asian ascension the U.S.: “A century ago, most Asian Americans were low-skilled., low-wage laborers crowded into ethnic enclaves and targets of official discrimination. Today they are the most likely of any major racial or ethnic group in America to live in mixed neighborhoods and to marry across racial lines. When newly minted medical school graduate Priscilla Chan married Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg last month, she joined the 37% of all recent Asian American brides who wed a non-Asian groom.”

          Parental investments in education and in maintaining intact marriages pay off in greater probability of success for their Asian American sons and daughters.


Dr. Cooper (, a retired scientist, is now an author, editor, and writing coach. His first book, Ting and I: A Memoir of Love, Courage and Devotion, was published by Outskirts Press in 2011. Also available from online booksellers are two memoirs he co-authored, The Shield of Gold and Kidnapped Twice, and three memoirs he edited: High Shoes and Bloomers and But…at What Cost and Home is Where the Story Begins. With Adria Goldman Gross, he recently co-authored Solved! Curing Your Medical Insurance Problems. His latest books are Write Your Book with Me  and How to Manage Nursing Care at Home. On Twitter, he is @douglaswcooper. His writing, editing, coaching site is

Rev. Naiwu's Sermon, Forsaking All for Christ


"Then Peter said to him, See, we have given up everything and have come after you; what then will we have?" -- Matthew 19:27 BBE

A lady left her parents, relatives and her position in church as an usher and choir mistress to follow a man that had many fortunes. She had refused to marry some men who wanted her hand in marriage. But now she had seen a man driving one Jeep, she left everything and then followed him to live with him. Later, the rich man impregnated her, and near to her child delivery, she was asked by the husband to return home to deliver the baby. The following day, she returned home, and two days later she gave birth to a bouncing baby boy. It was really a great joy because since she had given birth to a son, the man would be pleased. In most African places, a woman who gives birth to a son has a full right in the family she is married to. But, is it the case of this lady, who left all she had to follow this rich man? Immediately she delivered her baby, her mother called the man, and the man refused to answer them anymore. This lady cried: "In all that I did for him, he later abandoned me!" 

I. David's Plea: Do not reject me in my old age! When my strength fails, do not abandon me!-- Psalm 71:9. Here David knows that God has been his protection right from his childhood but in his old age, a period when he would not be able to do exploit, a period he may not be able to labor for support, a period friends and companions would go leaving him alone, and a period he may be fatherless and motherless, that God should not cast him off.

We may be tempted to say, Lord, I have devoted my energy to serve you as I'm young, please cast me not in my old age when my strength is failing, reject me not when I may not be able to feel the buoyant feelings of the earlier years.

II. David's Confidence in God: 
Though my father and my mother abandoned me, the LORD gathers me up.--- Psalm 27:10 ISV. David knows that parents can abandon their children. Though, it is rare for parents to abandon their children, there are some parents who could not train up their children and such children will be roaming in the streets causing nuisances to the society. People sell their babies after delivering them, and some disown their children because of their faith in Christ. And David said, even if he could be abandoned by parents, it is certain that the God he worships would pick him up, raise him out from the dust and dehumanising conditions his parents and associates have kept him.  

‎The Fate of the Disciples:

Peter had heard Christ say, "And again I say to you, It is simpler for a camel to go through a needle's eye, than for a man with much money to go into the kingdom of God"-- Matt. 19:24. Since even the rich will find it difficult to enter the kingdom of God, then Peter asked Christ, what will they get since they have left their parents, relatives, friends, and occupations to follow him?

Illustration: Years ago, when a man, perhaps, a business man wanted someone who would serve him, he would definitely define agreement terms and conditions, what he would do for his servant before the servant boy's-or-girl's parents and/or eye-witnesses. In most cases, after a period of four years, the boss would establish a business for his servant. And by this empowerment, the servant had been rewarded. 

Peter seemed to know how he and other disciples would be rewarded for following Christ. This is important due to they had seen that it could be hard for the rich to enter heaven and so they asked: Who then may have salvation?

The question Peter asked could be paraphrased in this way: Lord, we have abandoned all the worldly pleasures to follow you, what will be our reward? We have abandoned our wives, home and occupation as fishermen to follow you, what will be our gain? We know that men in this world can disappoint, we expect no disappointment in you as our Lord and Savior.

Our Gains
1. We shall sit upon the twelve thrones judging the twelve tribes of Israelites (Matt. 19:28, Rev. 2:26-28). Thus, the authority and power Christ has will equally be given to his followers. It a great honour to us that the day Christ will return, we shall be given the power to judge our enemies, and condemn every tongue that has risen against us. Rise up, and then become active followers of master Jesus.

2. We shall be God's people with a name that will never disappear (Isaiah 66:22, Rev. 3:5). We live to die, and then our name disappears. But as long as we walk in close obedience, and fellowship with God, an eternal name of honour will be given to us.

3. We shall receive a hundred times of the things we have given up, and will inherit eternal life, (Matt. 19:13).

Brethren, wouldn't you forsake those worldly pleasures, and embrace Christ? Shun prostitution, greed, cheating, works you know that do not give you chance to worship God. The disciples forfeited their jobs, and then followed Christ. Wouldn't you seek for the reality of heaven now? Christ says in Revelation 20:12-15, "Look, I am coming soon, bringing my reward with me to repay all people according to their deeds ... Blessed are those who wash their robes. they will be permitted to enter through the gates of the city and eat the fruit from the tree of life. Come on, think about without delay. Surrender your life to him now, and receive his anointing, favour and his gracious blessings. May God help you. God bless you. 

Rev. Fortune Nwaiwu of Nigeria has now established his own blog, the first entry in which is:

Saturday, March 10, 2018

Rev. Nwaiwu Sermon, Patching New Clothes with Old Cloth

From Rev. Fortune Nwaiwu of Nigeria:

Friday, March 9, 2018

Rev. Nwaiwu Sermon, Are You Running Away from God?

Rev. Fortune Nwaiwu of Nigeria has now established his own blog, the first entry in which is:


As I stated at the beginning of my book, this debilitating fear of germs can practically ruin your life. I embarrassed myself, family members, and other loved ones when I behaved the way I did with this aspect of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD).

I recently watched a documentary called “Howard Hughes Revealed” on the National Geographic channel. This show was excellent in making me feel better about my peculiarities around my past fear of germs.

It discussed Mr. Hughes’s multiple concussions and head injuries from plane crashes. It explained his many OCD behaviors that were exactly like the ones I experienced.

It brought tears to my eyes when it showed the times he had to layer tissues to be able to touch a doorknob…because there is a relative of mine who rarely speaks to me anymore, and I think it has to do with my bothering her in a public restroom in New York City when I couldn't touch anything without her help, many years ago.

I'm sure there's way more to her dislike for me than that, but seeing Howard Hughes struggling like I did brought back all the times I used to take her to Disney World and have so much fun with her. Now, I'm not even invited to big events in her life. My brain tumor changed our relationship. Forever?

As someone stated in this documentary, “The head injuries would tend to just make the OCD worse.”

My brain tumor caused this strange behavior of mine. The brain injury I now have due to that tumor causes other behaviors I have written about at length in this book.

I hope and pray that whoever loved Mr. Hughes was able to forgive him for what he suffered from. I hope and pray the same for me.

I need to list the many things I could not do and the new behaviors I did do because of this horrible brain tumor. I thank God every day that these behaviors are done for me, and I pray for the millions who suffer from them still…

Of course, having mysophobia does not mean that you have a brain tumor, but a brain tumor caused my fear of germs. Though my list of symptoms is due to an undiagnosed brain tumor, this list can apply to many others who have no tumor but have to live this life anyway. There are strains of this phobia. Some people wash their hands just a little more often than most people do. Others demonstrate many, or all, of the behaviors listed next. And sadly, I am pretty sure there are behaviors I cannot remember anymore or ones that affect other people, but did not affect me. Here's MY list:
·       Doorknobs: I wouldn't touch them with bare hands – always needed someone else to turn them for me or I had to find a tissue/paper towel/toilet paper to use. I even had to do this in my own home! Sometimes, outside my home, I had to kick some doors open, if I had nothing to touch the doorknobs with or no one to help me.
·       Toilet seats: I could not sit down anywhere except my own home, and even there, only sometimes. I used chemical wipes from my purse to clean all seats. I became a master at hovering!
·       Movies/church: I heard a DJ on the radio say there are two places that are never cleaned, so I stopped going to the movies for four years, and I stood at the back of my church until a sweet woman, Sandy, helped me by laying my coat down for me to sit on, a simple thing, but one I could not think of on my own back then. By the way, the church I go to – Grace Church in Lake Katrine, NY – does clean their chairs and pews, as does the Lyceum Theater in Red Hook, NY.
·       Clothing try-ons: I could not try on clothes of any sort that had been tried on by someone else. One store in my mall opened the gates early for me so I would go in the back room to try on clothes fresh from the sealed plastic bags.
·       Bras: speaking of clothes – the only bras I would buy would be sports bras because I sort of knew my size, and I would wash them in hot, soapy water with bleach before I wore them. . Right after the brain surgery, my mother took me shopping for real bras, and we made the other women in the try-on room laugh when I shouted, “Mom, my boobies are touching a dirty bra that someone else tried on!” I was so happy I was cured.
·       Hotels: if I had to go out of town for something, I packed an entire suitcase full of chemical wipes, hand sanitizer, toilet seat covers…. I even packed towels to cover carpets because I couldn't step on their carpets or even use their towels. [One of the too-many-to-count fights I had with Aiden was on the train trip to NYC when I packed this type of suitcase to clean my hospital room when I got there. Who gets mad at their loved one as they’re about to have brain surgery???]
·       Hot tubs/bath tubs: speaking of hotels---and even in my own home---I couldn't go into those because once I heard someone call a hot tub “a giant cesspool”. We all know how relaxing they can be, so this was a big loss.
·       Beaches: I could not go barefoot on the beach. This was terribly sad because I grew up going to the beach in Hampton Bays, Long Island, because both sets of my grandparents had houses there. I missed that so much!
·       Envelopes: I could not lick envelopes. I had to use a small dish of water with a paper towel to pay my bills, send birthday cards, etc.
·       Haircuts: I couldn't rest my neck on the sink at my hair salon. God bless Lisa Smith, who helped me through this, visit after visit, at J.C. Penney. Lisa is also the first person who washed my hair when I had this huge scar on my scalp after the 42 staples were removed from my head following brain surgery.
·       Doctor appointments: I had to have doctors’ tables covered completely in order that I could sit down undressed on them. Those thin pieces of white paper were never wide enough, so nurses in various offices had to help cover the area completely. I made doctors wash their hands in front of me and to use gloves to touch me. I thank Dr. Keller at Hudson Valley Foot Associates because he was so sweet about this annoying request. Another doctor – who will remain nameless – laughed at me and refused to do it. Any doctor who can laugh at a sick patient is heartless. Another doctor, who will also remain nameless, didn’t wash his hands after he used his restroom that was right near his waiting room. I had heard him urinate, flush, and open the door. I told him to go back in and wash his hands. His staff clapped and smiled at me when he did what he was told to do by this patient.
·       Floors: I mentioned floors in hotels before, but I even had trouble in my own home. I could never go barefoot. I wiped my feet down with wipes before I got into bed each evening. When workers came to the condo to repair heaters and washing machines, etc., I made them take off their shoes and walk on the plastic I had put down before they arrived. The guys from Lowe’s Plumbing and Heating and Air Conditioning in Kingston, NY, were extremely considerate and cordial to me.
·       Cars: after each trip, I wiped the entire front two seats of my car down, using the chemical wipes. I also cleaned the steering wheel and the shift lever after each time I drove. I had to sit on a towel whether I was in my car or in someone else's car. This became truly necessary when the undiagnosed brain tumor caused frequent wetting “accidents” while sitting. Again, these wetting incidents were blamed on my meds, but I found out later they were another sign of the undiagnosed tumor.
·       Friends’ visits: I rarely allowed anyone into my condo. This wasn't because I was messy. It was because of how exhausting it would be after they left, as I would have to scrub down everything they had touched. My friend Marian would lay paper towels everywhere in her house for me to sit on when I visited there.
·       Shopping carts: nowadays when you go to many stores, there are wipes available for you to use to clean the cart before you load it up. I feel sometimes as though I helped that idea along because I did this long before stores offered those wipes. I carried my home wipes into each store and wiped my carts right away. Because I had memory problems due to the tumor, I sometimes forgot the wipes. Then I would hold my sleeves down from my shirt or coat and hold the cart handle with my sleeves instead of with my bare hands. Also – I NEVER put anything into the spot where babies are put, because of what “remnants” might be left there from a dirty diaper.
·       Shared pens: when I was at a bank, doctor’s office, or anywhere else where pens are shared, I always had to dig through my heavy purse for MY pen. If I forgot it somewhere, I had to find a tissue or napkin to hold a pen touched by others.
·       Soap: I could only use soap that was from a pump dispenser. I could never touch a bar of soap, even a new one.
·       Microphones: I could never hold a microphone. When I sang karaoke when I first met Aiden, I had to wrap napkins around the mic so I could focus on the song.
·       Straws: I could never sip a drink from a glass, cup, can, or bottle. I HAD to have a straw for each thing I drank. That was very dangerous with hot tea or hot chocolate!
·       Faucets: I could not touch any faucets either at home or out and about. I turned them on with a tissue, paper towel, hand towel, or toilet paper, and then did the same to turn them off.
·       Phones: all telephones had to be wiped with chemical wipes before and after each use.
·       Remotes: if I was home or at a friend’s house, I used a remote control for the television with a paper towel, so I could touch the buttons. If I was in a hotel, I wiped it down repeatedly with chemical wipes.
·       Escalators: when I went places like malls, airports, and others where I needed to ride on the escalator, I couldn't hold the hand rail, so I had to be very careful not to lose my balance. I had – and still have – balance problems.
·       Elevators: I could not touch the buttons in an elevator, so I would ask someone else to do it for me, if there were others riding at the same time. If I was alone, I touched the buttons with my knuckle. After I did that, I scrubbed my hands with sanitizer, which was always attached to the outside of my purse or was in a pocket of my clothing. I lost the skin on my knuckles because of the overuse of hand sanitizer. I had to use layers of Band-Aids to cover my exposed skin.
·       Church: I already explained about not being able to sit in a chair or pew without help. But, I also was not able to take communion. When the communion basket was passed, with the symbolic body of Christ, I took one wafer to look as if I was participating. As the ushers went around the whole church distributing the wafers, I talked to myself silently and tried to convince myself the hands that laid that wafer into the basket were clean, so I should swallow it when the pastor indicated. I never could.

Also – I wrote earlier about “licking” envelopes by using water and paper towels at home. At church, I would put my money in the offering envelope but then would ask whoever was sitting next to me to lick it closed for me. If I was alone, I put an open envelope in the basket and didn't worry if my money fell out, as long as I hadn't had to lick the envelope closed.

·       Laundromats: before I lived in the condo where I live now, which does have a washer and dryer, I rented an apartment that did not. I had to bring my laundry to various public places to wash and dry my clothes. I brought my chemical wipes and wiped down each machine I was about to use, so no one else's germs would get on my clothes. This caused a few stares by others, probably wondering what was going on with me.
·       Shopping: I spent approximately $1000 per month on cleaning supplies. Some of those supplies I used to wipe down the packages holding those exact same supplies I was going to use. I couldn't touch any container of anything from the store before I scrubbed it over and over with the wipes. I shopped at Stop & Shop in Rhinebeck, NY, where the staff there was very sympathetic when they observed me load an entire shopping cart full of cleaning supplies each week onto the conveyor belt to be scanned. When I was cured of this nonsense after my brain surgery, I went to the store and told them what had caused it all. I got smiles, hugs, and warm comments from the various people who worked there then. To this day, I get asked how I'm doing whenever I shop there (now called TOPS) for the “normal” shopping cart items.
·       Condiments: I was unable to touch salt and pepper shakers, sugar dispensers, etc., in restaurants. Whoever was eating out with me was asked to do that for me. If I was eating out alone, I skipped using anything I typically enjoyed. At home, dispensers were washed oh-so-frequently. [I was reminded by my friend Marla that I wiped down things in restaurants with hand sanitizer.]
·       Shelves: in my own home, I could not lay food, plates, clothing, and/or towels on bare shelves. I had to scrub them down with chemical wipes and then lay coverings on all shelving. To this day, some of those coverings are still on my shelves only because piles of stuff are on top of them now. When I move out of my current place, I'll smile when those coverings get thrown in the garbage, rather than taken with me to a new place.
·       Gasoline pumps: I was unable to pump my gasoline without gloves on. If I had forgotten the gloves, which sometimes happened because they were in and out of my car so often to be washed, then I used napkins or tissues to hold the pump. When I got back in my car, I scrubbed my hands over and over with hand sanitizer. To this day, I wash with that after each gas pumping episode, but now it's only to get rid of the smell of gas on my hands.
·       Airports: though at this writing I no longer fly, because when I do the pain in my head is excruciating when the plane goes up at liftoff and down for descent, I know that before my brain surgery, I had a very difficult time in airport security lines due to the mysophobia. I always had to remember to bring extra socks so that when my sneakers had to be removed and I stepped on airport carpeting in my socks, the clean second pair of socks could be put on after I cleared security. I would not put the socks that had touched the carpet back into my sneakers. They went into the nearest garbage can.

In the airplane, I had to scrub down the seat, seat belt, and food tray with chemical wipes before I could take my seat. Of course, this was annoying to those trying to get to their seats who were in line behind me. I am pretty sure I bothered a lot of people who just wanted to get settled so the plane could be cleared for take-off.

When we first sat down, I had to wipe with my chemical wipes the instruction card in the seat back ahead of me. I always followed along when the flight attendants went over the safety procedures, but until the cards were cleaned, I couldn’t touch them. I kept thinking about the dirty hands that had touched those cards before me, instead of concentrating on what to do if there were an emergency. Most of the time, I saw others ignoring this routine, but I am such a teacher, I had to listen.

I always had to have a window seat with Aiden sitting next to me. I could barely tolerate his arm touching mine, so I could NEVER rub elbows with a stranger. We all know how crowded airplane seating can be.

I always had to wear a hooded sweatshirt no matter what the temperature was, because I had to put my head into the hood before I could let my hair touch the headrest.

When the flight attendant came around for our drink orders, I was adamant that I needed a straw with my soda, because I could never drink directly from a can or plastic cup. If she or he forgot to give me a straw, my drink just sat on the food tray in front of me until the clean-up began.

During the flight, I used more chemical wipes to clean the buttons on remotes for the TV screen or for seat adjustments. If the person sitting in front of me moved the seat back to get comfortable, I jumped, because I was so scared of the seat being too close to me.

If, heaven forbid, I had to use the restroom on the plane, my chemical wipes went with me so I could clean off the door latch, toilet seat, and faucet. It’s quite an accomplishment to tinkle while hovering over a toilet on a bouncy plane flight, but I could do it. And that saying, “If you sprinkle when you tinkle, please be neat and wipe the seat” was done by me with such finesse.

·       Garbage duty: I would not take out my own garbage. Many friends came over to help me dump my wastepaper baskets into plastic garbage bags, and then they brought the bags out to the dumpsters.
·       Housecleaning: I could never go near the vacuum cleaner or dust cloths for fear of germs, so numerous friends helped me with that, also. This seems very odd to me now, because you would think I would have loved to get rid of the dirt and grime. But, I couldn’t do it. Thank God for friends!
·       Brushing teeth: I had to wash my toothbrush each day with soap and hot water before I put toothpaste on it to brush my teeth. I purchased several new brushes often.
·       ATMs: I couldn't touch buttons on an ATM machine without much deliberation. Sometimes, I did my bank transactions with my knuckles. If my knuckles were covered in bandages due to lost skin from too many chemicals used to clean my hands, then I used a pen or pencil from my purse to push the buttons. All of this caused mistakes.
·       Restaurants: if a waitress or waiter held my teacup by the part where I would sip from, instead of the handle, then I couldn't drink it at all. Too many staff put their thumbs and fingers where mouths go.

A funny story I can write about is that when I was being checked out of NYU Medical Center (July 10, 2009 – only three days after brain surgery), my sneakers got “lost” in all the confusion of that process.

My sisters were there to say goodbye before they traveled home to Florida. Aiden was there to drive me home (because the doctors said I shouldn't ride a train yet), and Aiden's friend was outside in Aiden's car trying to stay out of trouble with respect to parking regulations.

So, when it was time to get out of the wheelchair that had rolled me to the front door, I walked on a New York City sidewalk in my socks only. I laughed hysterically, since just a few short days before, I lugged an entire suitcase full of cleaners into the hospital so I could clean the room entirely before I even undressed.

Now, I was parading around a filthy city sidewalk with only a thin pair of socks on and loving every minute of it! I was smiling, and getting into Aiden's car, thanking God that the fear of germs was FINALLY over! I had made it to the “other side” and I was so radiant.

Many people have called my story a miracle. What I think is truly inspiring about it is that it's one more example of getting through whatever life hands you. You can do it. Don't give up. God never said it was going to be easy. We all have situations and circumstances that are tough to take. But, getting to the other side of them makes you all the more joyous and fulfilled. I'm glad that I've lived to tell my story.

I know that prayer works. Once, when I traveled to Boston, Massachusetts, for a conference to hear preacher Joel Osteen speak, mysophobia was taking over my life. I couldn't even sit in the bleachers without covering the seats with something because I got upset with myself on the ride there that the pants I wore were made of too thin material and the germies would touch me.

I told all this to a woman working there selling Joel's books. She told all the other workers to stop selling and circle around me, don't touch me, and pray. They did just that, and I was able to calmly return to my seat and listen to God's message from Joel.

I know there are some people who don't approve of God's word being spread in this way. But I believe I've come closer to God because of speakers like Joel. His workers could have just kept on selling, but they didn't. They talked to the Lord. Two or three years later, I was free of this phobic chokehold. Amen.

          As I was putting the “last leg” on this chapter, I met a couple of friends for lunch. Of course, we discussed how it was going with this book.

We all had an amusing chat about my peculiar habits years ago when I was petrified of germs. I remembered some of the crazy behaviors they brought up.

But, then one of my girlfriends said something that I don't think I ever knew. She told me that I lost a lot of friends because of my behaviors when I had mysophobia.

That shocked me because I didn't even realize that was so. I was so shook up by that information, I didn't even ask who she was referring to.

So, I decided the way I would wrap up this chapter is to apologize to anyone I may have offended, upset, bothered, etc. when I behaved irrationally. We now know why that all took place (my brain tumor), but hopefully, whomever I've bothered, I hope they can let it go. I have to say, I still have a wonderful amount of friends who have seen me through this. Those of you who couldn't, I get it.

And to those of you who can relate to this list, do absolutely everything you can to get better. Life is too short to obsess about germs!

[A very humorous incident happened as my editor and I were proofreading my manuscript. It took place at a restaurant one night when I “ran away” from the stress caused by all of this work. The waitress had inadvertently thrown away my wrapped-in-foil leftover garlic bread with cheese. When I noticed what she had done, I retrieved it from the bucket of dirty dishes the busboy was about to bring back to the kitchen to wash. I just had to get it back, as it is the best appetizer I have ever had. Obviously, I could NEVER have dug through dirty dishes before the brain operation! So, those of you who suffer from mysophobia, I hope you will have a story like this to tell someday yourself.]


For the coming year, I will be excerpting, weekly, material from this fine book by Janet Johnson Schliff, M.S.Ed.. She wrote it over a three-year period, with some coaching and editing help from me, through my business, The excerpts are from the almost-final version. The memoir is now available in paperback and ebook formats from and from its publisher, 



Janet Johnson Schliff was on WKNY  Radio 1490 at 9:10 a.m. on Thursday, March 1, Kingston, NY.

Janet Johnson Schliff spoke at 1 p.m. on Saturday, March 3, at Barnes & Noble, 1177 Ulster Avenue, Kingston, NY.

I attended, along with almost 40 other people. The talk was especially well received, with several questions at the end, as well.
Congratulations, Janet!

Janet Johnson Schliff spoke at the Starr Library in Rhinebeck, NY, at 7 p.m. on March 6. 

She will speak at the Golden Notebook Bookstore in Woodstock, NY, at 2 p.m. on March 17. 

She will speak at the Morton Library in Rhinecliff, NY, at 6:30 p.m. on March 28. 

She will appear at RCAL in Kingston, NY, at 4 p.m. on April 3. 

More signings will be coming up, and a feature about her by John DeSantos [845 LIFE] will appear in the Middletown Times Herald-Record on a Monday in March, which is Brain Injury Awareness Month.