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Saturday, August 12, 2017
From FRUSTRATED WITH LIFE, "School"
is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned at school.”
Gallup Poll (2014): “48% of Americans are
‘completely’ or ‘somewhat satisfied’ with the quality of kindergarten through
high school education in the country….”
Chapter 8: School
School comes down to 5 Ps: performance, peers,
parents, pressure, and profs.
Comment #9 laments a 46 on a bio test. Don’t
despair! My first physics mid-term exam as a physics major, I got a 17 out of a
possible 100. I dejectedly asked the prof, “Is this my grade or my seat
number?” Eventually, I got an A.B. and an M.S. in physics. There’s hope.
Peers? #482 despises group projects. Not everyone
pulls on the oars. The daughter of #451 is shunned by the popular crowd; looks,
manner, clothes? #406 and #321 report on students who did much less and got
better grades. Luck triumphs?
Parents are why #127 and #407 are in school at all
and perhaps #178, who wants to escape, is there for that reason also.
Pressure: #62 is exhausted. Would-be MD #350 finds
math too hard. #132 is not accepted by any grad school and feels the pain of
failure. #385 simply “can’t keep up.”
Professors and other strange beasts: Teachers
wonder why #422 is in school. Hispanic #462 finds that the teachers assume he
And yet, except for the occasional suicide, we all
make it through some number of grades in school before we go out into “the real
world” and then sometimes wish we were back in school.
Douglas Winslow Cooper, Ph. D.
got a 46 on my bio test. ugh!!
go on a diet to lose 20 pounds and put on 10. wtf. kfc dont have low calorie
chicken no more?
mad my so called friend snitched on me today
tired...physically and mentally tired and I have lost everything I was which
was so awesome. I have been in university for 3 semesters now and assignments
keep piling up. I am tired of doing this- I am tired of other people telling me
what I should and shouldnt do- Its my life - stay the hell out of it. And why I
feel so frustrated is because I never wanted to do this in the freaking first
place. No one understands and I feel so tired its not even funny. I just want
to go home and get back to who I was. No one understands. Everything just feels
so numb. Ugh. I hope this pathetic feeling ends FAST.
been so frustrated with my practicum. I’m wondering if pediatrics is for me! I
love nursing but perhaps I just don’t have the heart for pedi like I thought I
did. I’m so frustrated with my shyness as well. Why can’t I just find the
confidence in myself so I can be the best nurse for my patients?! Where can I
find this confidence? Or better yet... how can overcome this anxiety? :(
am frustrated with my life ... infact wid my studies i jst want some space some
break in my life ... i dun want to hurt my parents btw wat can i do now ... and
at dis stage ... now nothing will happen ... i m giving up!
did not get accepted to any of the graduate schools I applied to. And you know
every friend and family member keeps asking me what I have heard back from
them. And the pain of failure is risen back up to the surface all over again. I
can see it in there eyes during my hesitation to answer, the moment they
realize I did not get accepted I feel an unrelenting feeling of failure. I have
broke my back figuratively while struggling with a persistent learning
disability my entire life. And I continue to get rejected. I cannot get a job
in my field of study because no one is hiring. I hate my life and the direction
it is going in. The only joy I get is from doing martial arts in which I
inflict physical pain unto other people.
in class 12 now... I dont know what i want.. I dont understand myself.. I dont
know where im heading to.. Im all confused..
thing i want is someone close to my heart..whom i can love, With whom i can
share my life, with whom i can share my thoughts and everything.. I never had a
girlfriend till date..dont know why.. The first girl i liked never even looked
at me.. Now the girl i like is my friend but she likes someone else.. I want
that she stays happy with him but at the same time it eats me up.. I enjoy her
company, i like her talking, i like her but i know she cant be mine..
thing which has come up is my lack of concentration in studies.. I hav brain
but it is refusing to accept lessons now.. I hav almost left studies.. Now a
pressure to score good marks has build up. Its not just to get admission
further but because i wanna study with her(friend).. She is going to a good
college which has a high cut off percent seeing my present condition.. I wanna
study with her but now its almost impossible for me to score so good.. Even i
havn't decided a career for me till now.. N don't know what im gonna do after
my boards.. My parents hav much hope from me..but im just going the opposite
way.. Dont know what will happen to me, my life.. I wanna escape from all
this... :-( but i cant...
my ass off for 2 months for a school project and today was the day of
presenting it infront of the judges. The computer crashed twice while
presenting and my friend who barely did anything got the prize. Why do people
who work hard not get any returns in life?
for the opportunity to let it out. Am stuck in life, I cant move up and I can't
move down. Finished High School two years ago but I don't have any good
certificate. Been failing mathematics and its pains me. I want to study
medicine but Mathematics dont want me to. Cant pass med entrance exam, cant
make up my results. Everybody looks at me with pity, I hate it.
eh....high school. Tough and got GCSEs in 2 years, great :I just feel so
deprived if energy and sleep and teachers are really not great- feel like I
have to win them over for them to like me. Living in a house with at least 1 fight
with 1 person n the family is a distraction, friendships are tough, and teenage
life can be soooooo complicated yet so simple and boring. Homework doesn’t make
sense to me like it used to and I know studies are hard, but I feel I can’t
keep up, you know? Like I’m lagging behind and I feel so pressured it’s not
great. Hope it gets better, good luck to u all with similar problems xx
have studied for 3 years.but i could not get any good institutes for my
advanced studies.despite of my hard work i didnt get a crack.but the guy who
had spent less time reading and much time goofing around got his crack at
it.why life is so unfair?i get so frustrated looking at my mom and dad’s
disappointed face..i dont know what to do and how to get out of it..
doing my MS in Statistics and most of my friends from school and college are
working and earning big bucks. I got into MS due to my mom’s persuasion
otherwise I would not have continued studying after my Bachelors and would be
working like my friends now. But bcoz I got into the MS program I need to
finish it well-I have brains(I was 7th in my Bachelors) but somehow I can’t get
my brain to concentrate on my MS studies. What can I do to get my concentration
levels back and finish my MS on a good note with good grades. Your suggestions
will be appreciated. Thanks in advance.
graduated high school with a diploma, and enrolled into a local community
college soon after. I graduated with my associate’s degree in 2 in a half years
and transferred to a four year. I flunked out my first semester and I am pretty
depressed. I wasted a lot of money, on housing and it seems that I will not be
reinstated with a federal grant. I feel like I ruined my only chances of
getting an education. I come from a poor broken family home, and everyday I
relive how much of a disappointment I am. Even my teachers (during my first
term) questioned why I was in school and the major I am. As if I’m stupid and
should give up.
so frustrated with school. All of the projects we get are so pointless and a
waste of money and they are not even fun. This one project I have is 215 points
and it’s a biome no one has heard about, and its just ridiculous! Not many
people even know what a biome is! So its like why waste my money on something
no one cares about? Then thinking about collage too, and the whole education
system. It’s just broken and none of the teachers even really care. Sure there
maybe a few teachers who are passionate about teaching their students but the
majority could care less. It just doesn’t make any sense, teachers should just
not have students pour money into a pointless little project more than likely
won’t even use in the future. Such a waste.
sick and tired of having to pick up the pieces of my 12 year old daughter when
her "friends" turn their backs and ignore her for the "popular
crowd". It makes her feel crummy, Unworthy, isolated and meaningless. She
is a good person who gives all her love to these kids just to have them turn
and break her heart. I hate these kids. I really do.
am studying at Bgmea university of fashion technology.it is 4 th fay of my
class i feel cry for my studying pressure it seems very dificult for me to take
lots of pressure
15 years old and I’m in the 10th grade. Throughout my experience in school I’ve
already been a great student, until I started high school. Highschool has been
really hard on me and I honestly don’t know what to do. I went from going to a
school that has 200 students in total to going to a school that has almost 2000
students. Apart from that I am Having a hard time with my math and science
class. I have a tutor and she has helped somewhat but I still don’t get the
grades I need. My school is very bias and the way things go around there is
that if you don’t do good on a test then your basically a failure at life,
there is a large amount of white, Asian students, I’m Hispanic and sometimes I
feel as though the teachers let their own racial blind spots affect the way
they teach me. Sometimes my teachers don’t think I have the capacity of doing
well, I feel annoyed because I really want to go to college but both my
freshman and sophomore year has been really hard on me and I’ve lost all of my
motivation. I honestly don’t know what else to do!!!!!!
bloody internet is slow as fuck it takes 5 mins to load 1 site. I can't open
the school website.... When it actually loaded in about 5-10 mins, I click on
the link and it just says the page has become unresponsive. After waiting for about
30 mins in total to get to that fucking link. I don't even know I hate this
am soooo fucking furious that for this fucking school projet I fucking have to
handle everything because no one seems to give a fuck. and some ppl want to get
over it but we end up doing the work twice. It fucking kills me i Fucking cant
deal with group projects anymore. I Fucking despise group projects everyone can
fucking go to hell.
A. Duckworth (2016) Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance
C.S. Dweck (2006) Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
M.C. Ricci (2013) Mindsets in the Classroom: Building a
Culture of Success and Student Achievement in Schools
Excerpted from Guzman and Cooper (2017), FRUSTRATED WITH LIFE? YOU ARE NOT ALONE! based on years of blog entries at http://FrustratedWithLife.com. The book is available in paperback at amazon.com. Would-be authors are invited to see my site WriteYourBookWithMe.com.