Sunday, December 15, 2019

GOOD GRIEF, Resources

Good Grief: Strategies for Building Resilience and Supporting Transformation

(Some resources focus on providing the survivor support services, while others focus on providing guidance or instructions on how healthcare professionals can support survivors of grief and loss.)

BOOKS: (Just a few. I suggest visiting your local book store or doing a Google search. I prefer looking in the store as I can better decide what book is best for me.)

Checklist for Family & Survivors, by Sally Balch Hurme (2 books: 2014 or 2015) Published by AARP.
This book provides many helpful suggestions in checklist format very useful for those going through the grieving process. I wish I would have known about this resource sooner.

Heart Humor Healing, by Patty Wooten, RN (1994). Published by Commune-a-key.
This book offers patients, their families, and health care providers an alternative perspective to the sometimes frightening and frustrating experience of hospitalization and the challenges of illness. It is a collection of quotes about heart, humor, and healing that will touch, tickle and titillate everyone.

Stressed is Desserts Spelled Backward: Rising above life’s challenges with humor, hope, and courage, by Brian Luke Seaward, PhD (2007). Published by Whole Person Associates.
This book contains stories of love and humor, shared by real people — their stories of stress, survival, and peace. A good read for anyone.

The Art of Calm: Relaxation Through the Five Senses, by Brian Luke Seaward, PhD (1999). Published by Health Communications, Inc.
This book takes you on a journey through the five senses and provides examples in each of how you can use everyday experiences of the senses to achieve relaxation.

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, by Perma Chodron (1997). Published by Random House, Inc.
This book provides heart advice for difficult times: ways to use painful emotions to cultivate wisdom, compassion, and courage; methods for communicating that lead to openness and true intimacy with others; practices for reversing negative habitual patterns and techniques for working with chaotic situations. (A more spiritual view.)

WEBSITES: (There are numerous websites to consider. These are only a few.)

Dying in America at ( is a multimedia documentary project, directed by award-winning filmmaker Carolyn Jones, that examines the dying experience through the eyes of nurses.
“It is our greatest hope that this website will offer some direction, comfort, and community for anyone facing these difficult times. Our Topics Page seeks to help you address specific issues you may be grappling with, or questions you may have. Our Tools Page seeks to help you discern, document and discuss your end of life wishes through a series of document-based steps.”
“We will never defeat death, but we can prepare ourselves and our loved ones for what lies ahead and make the experience of dying as rich and as meaningful as the experience of living.”

International Nurse Coach Association at ( is an organization that provides training to nurses interested in becoming certified nurse coaches. These nurse coaches are trained to provide a person-centered, holistic, integrated body-mind-spirit perspective to healing along the continuum of life. Some have had special training in nutrition as well as end-of-life care. Nurses can visit this site to find out more about how to become a certified nurse coach. Anyone interested in contracting with a nurse coach can visit the site and go to “contact us” to request the names of nurse coaches in your area.

National Home Funeral Alliance at ( The NHFA empowers families to care for their own dead by providing educational opportunities and connections to resources that promote environmentally sound and culturally nurturing death practices. This is the place to find information about home funerals, including directories for where to find home funeral guides, home funeral education programs, home-funeral-friendly funeral directors, celebrants and clergy, and groups who will help families when needed.

Sacred Crossings at ( — Their mission is to educate and support individuals toward a conscious, peaceful transition and to empower and guide families to reclaim the healing ritual of a home funeral. To explore this option, review their FAQs.

Huntington Meditation and Imagery Center at ( — is an organization dedicated to bringing transpersonal understanding and transpersonal skills into the health and helping professions. By knowing how to awaken these qualities in your patients, clients, students, employees, congregants and others who come to you for help, you bring an added healing dimension to your work. Visit their website for details and class options for health care professionals, social workers, clergy and others. I used a lot of their techniques to assist me in my grief work.

Grief Share at ( are many websites to provide support for various grief and loss categories: loss of a spouse, partner, child, pet. They may even be called GriefShare groups. These may be located in a hospital, a church or a residential home. Many sites to look through to find one that fits your needs.

Facebook — If you search “grief support groups” on Facebook, you will find a list of options to explore. This venue provides broader access for connecting to others experiencing grief. This is quite public with interactions from unknown sources. Some may choose this, while others prefer a more personal support group.

Bereavement Support Group — Another term to google for options of grief support online.

Hospice Foundation at ( go to the section on End-of-Life-Support-and-Resources/Grief-Support/Support-GroupsThey provide some education about grief and loss. There is also a list of Support Group Resources:

The Compassionate Friends –– Support after the death of a child.

AARP Grief and Loss Resource ––  Support after the death of a senior.

National Widower’s Organization –– Support for men grieving a loss.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention –– Support for suicide survivors.

Griefnet –– An organization of support for adults grieving a loss.

Hellogrief –– An organization of support for adults and kids grieving a loss.

OTHER: (Community resources)

Physician referrals to certified counselors: Your physician can offer you support, as well as direct you to qualified counselors certified in supporting emotional and psychological issues during grief and loss.

Friends and family: Consider this option as a strategy for real-time 24/7 support as your base of support, if it is available to you. Make a list of those who would be good resources in your time of need so it is readily available.

Local Churches

Hospital Support Groups

About the Author

Cheryl A. Barrett, MSN, RN, NC-BC, has been a nurse for over 30 years and is a board-certified nurse coach by the American Holistic Nurses Association Credentialing Center. As a nurse, she was always drawn to the psychosocial needs of patients recognizing that the patient was much more than their illness.
She believes that stress can have a significant impact on the mind/body/spirit resulting in distress of the “whole person.” No one is exempt from stress! However, stress can be modified, controlled, and in some cases — eliminated. Through her training as a Holistic Stress Management Instructor, Cheryl gained invaluable skills to support herself and others to decrease stress and achieve work-life balance. She promotes self-care as an essential component of any stress management program and has used many of the stress management techniques during her own life challenges, most recently coping with the death of her spouse. She has also been a speaker on this topic to local senior citizen groups.
In her role as a nurse coach, she has mentored students pursuing their bachelor’s and master’s degree in nursing to successful completion. She helped them feel more confident; improve decision-making, communication and leadership skills; and increase their personal effectiveness in accomplishing personal goals. Both academic learning expertise and guidance for achieving work-life balance were provided and supported self-care as an integral component of practice.
Writing has always been an interest of Cheryl’s. She has created newsletters, poems, and published articles in issues of Phi Kappa Phi’s Forum and the American Holistic Nurses Association’s Beginnings.
Currently, she is an active member of the Mooresville Art Gallery in Mooresville, NC, and supports the town’s soup kitchen with profits from her paper crafts.
Cheryl resides in North Carolina with her daughter, Bonnie.

For more information, contact her at:
Gmail — — Cheryl Ann Barrett, RN, MSN, NC-BC
Outskirts Press Author Webpage —

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With her permission, I am serializing here a near-final version of nurse Cheryl Barrett's valuable book on transcending grief. I had the pleasure of being her coach and editor through my Write Your Book with Me enterprise. 

Douglas Winslow Cooper, PhD

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