Nearly every day through our 37-year marriage, I reminded my beloved Tina Su Cooper,
"Sweetie Ting, I love you:
Every cell, every second,
Every molecule, every moment,
Every itty-bitty bit, every instant,
Now and forever."
Not quite poetry, but Tina and both I liked it.
"Now and forever" meant together forever.
Tina has died (4/25/22) and is interred next to our shared tombstone, which has engraved on it, "Together Forever." I have been giving that sentiment a bit more thought.
If there is a Heaven, she is there now, and I hope to be there someday. That will handle "together forever" nicely, though waiting will be hard.
If there is no Heaven, then we will be side-by-side in our graves, together in that way.
Meanwhile, I choose to view us as still married, to keep my wedding ring on my left hand, to do nothing I would not do were she here now. We are metaphorically still married, together in that way. Much as I miss Tina, this comforts me.
A promise kept forever is the most precious of vows.